As it’s Memorial Day Weekend, we at the Kicker would like to take a moment to remember a friend and mentor to our staff. John Sr. was not only a purple heart veteran but a veteran of the automotive industry working having a major influence on Subaru of America in the PCNW.
Please take a moment to remember your loved ones this weekend, and also get out their and have some fun–it’s ultimately the best way to honor them.
In Loving Memory…
John D. Hubach
(John Sr./Papa John/Farmer John/Big John)
4/30/1947 – 4/30/2022
Born in California to J. Alma and John D. Hubach, John moved with his family to Buckeye, Az where they became acquainted with the Jagow family that attended the same church. There he and his sisters and brothers attended a one room church school, as did the Jagow kids, which is important because he would later marry Peggie Jagow.
When his parents moved to Washington State he attended Auburn Academy in Auburn, WA – graduating in 1965. His family had bought a 10-acre berry farm in Monroe, WA. After high school John bought a berry farm of his own in Sumas, WA.
September 1967, John was drafted into the Army. He served as a medic in his tour in Vietnam. He had some interesting stories to tell about his time in the Army, and received a purple heart for wounds he received.
Upon his return to Washington and his farm, he took employment at a car dealership in Lynden, WA. where the owner sponsored him to go to mechanic school. When he completed mechanic school he worked at the dealership. In 1970, he married Peggy Jagow. They had two sons – John M. and Aaron E.
John began working for Subaru of America. In 1981 he moved his family to Vancouver, WA. and in September of 1983 the moved to the legendary home here in Battle Ground, where he lived until he passed.
John worked for Subaru for over 35 years. Major projects included promoting the rally racing program and running the Subaru displays at auto shows. John made friends at the shows and became passionate about cooking—especially outdoor grilling.
When his sons were in school, John enjoyed having their friends over on Saturday evenings, etc. He enjoyed cooking for them and having them out. The guys of the group continued to come over for occasions, or just to hang out so they could soak up his John’s advice and eat his great cooking. Now as adults they brought their own families, and Papa John’s continued to be the gathering spot all the way through this last year.
Over the years John opened his hospitality to coworkers, neighbors and acquaintances. He invited all to come and enjoy his famous breakfasts by a roaring fire with a view of nature.
John’s great joy was feeding people and conversations by the fire. He also enjoyed gardening and grew corn and berries as well as flowering bushes and trees depending on how busy he was each year. It’s plain to see how much John enjoyed hosting visitors, even erecting a full-size teepee on the property where grandkids and friends would sometimes spend the night.
John retired in the fall of 2018 after working for Subaru of America over 35 years. He is survived by his wife, two sons, six grand children, as well as a brother and sister.
If there was a theme to John Sr. life it was Truth and Integrity, but above all Love. Integrity John showed through being himself. He showed up as the man he’d decided to be no matter the circumstances. Love he showed through hospitality, and when he would defend the underdog. He didn’t like it when one of the ladies in the group was getting talked over.
There is a saying among professionals, “clarity is caring.” John modeled this to a T. He spoke directly and simply which built trust. He delivered communication, even if it was a hard thing to say.
Grief Recovery Method
In Grief Recovery Method we call it, staying emotionally current. You are free to feel your way, but this is how I see it.
Following that example, I want to speak to a couple of stupid things people say to each other when we’re grieving.
Lie #1 “Time heals all wounds.” I want you to picture John’s face as he says, “no it doesn’t.”
What if you got a flat tire? Should you sit next to it until it re-inflates?
The Truth: it takes time AND actions.
We need to take actions if we want to recover from the loss of John Sr. We need to talk about him, and about how we feel being without him. That’s the kind of tough conversation John would not avoid.
Lie #2 “Don’t feel bad.” People tell you not to feel bad, because they don’t know what to do to help you.
The Truth: Grieving is normal and natural. Being in pain from a loss doesn’t mean you’re broken so you don’t need to be fixed. You need to be cared for.
John would say, “even when you can’t fix everything, do what you can.” What we can do is sit and listen. We can be a heart with ears, and we can give out hugs.
Lie #3 “He’s in a better place.” That’s great, but we still hurt.
The Truth: I’m entitled to miss him. I give God full authority to give and to take away, but this still sucks.
I am grateful that I had him as long as I did. I’m not going to let his death steal away everything he added to my life. I’m going to remember his smile and his advice, and his wit and his corn chowder. I’m going to celebrate a life well lived by living mine more.
If you are grieving a loss, please don’t hesitate reach to a qualified Grief Recovery Sepcialist in your area, in a pinch you can use the contact form through this blog and we’ll point you to someone who can help.